Wrestling Blogs - Mike Tamillow

I figure since I’m on a roll giving out useless advice I might as well give out dating advice. I should warn you, my dating advice in many cases might get you slapped.

I’m going to tell you how to make sure you get a date:

A huge problem guys have in getting dates is they get a girl’s number and either talk to her a few times and never meet up with her again or she doesn’t pick up and they never even get to talk to her. There’s also the three-day rule; don’t call her for three days after you get her number. Nonsense. Here is my advice.

Don’t wait until you get her number to get a date. If she is actually genuinely interested in giving you her number then you have to be decisive. Get a date right there. If she reluctantly gives you her number don’t bother, don’t expect to meet up with her. (You can always double check by saying “Don’t give me your number if we aren’t going to get together ever.” This ensures by giving you her number she agrees to meet up with you.) The key is not to wait. Know a time a date that works for you and figure out what works for her, right there. (If it doesn’t work for her, make sure you say, “yeah that doesn’t work for me either”, you don’t want to seem desperate)

Give her a reason to go on the date with you. Do you really think she likes dating? It’s such a potentially awkward situation that often seems fruitless and most people believe that. So she is not going on the date for you, she is going on it because she likes bowling. In fact it isn’t even a date, just two friends going bowling. Maybe somewhere along the way it becomes a date.

Next, give her a time you’ll call and confirm the date. This is why the three-day rule doesn’t count. If after getting a girls number she says it’s ok if I call her at 8, then I’ll call her at 8 and she is almost required to answer, and I am not calling to try to get a date since I already have one, but just to talk to her. Just because a company gets your e-mail address they do not have your permission to harass you with sales requests, just because a girl gives you her number does not give you permission to call her. Get permission and a time. If she can’t confirm either a date or when you can call, you can still call her but remember how many cold-calling salespeople you’ve turned down. That’s about where you stand right now.

And most of all make sure she is excited to go. You have to create an opportunity first. If she isn’t actually excited to go then you can’t push, you’ve got to pull away. She should be excited every moment she is with you. Because God only knows how girls think and if my guess is correct then she’s either exponentially increasing her excitement or doubt in seeing you.

When the opportunity arises don’t wait, take it and be decisive.

I should probably start talking about wrestling again. My wrestling advice may be a little better. (FYI- I compare everything to wrestling)

That’s about where my advice begins. Be decisive on everything, especially in wrestling. When your coach screams “shoot” it’s already too late. You need to find that opportunity and when it comes EXPLODE. Your opponent has made a critical error in turning away from you when you passed the elbow. Or maybe you snapped his head down and he pulled it up just perfect. You need to time it all perfect, don’t jump on it. Time it and then explode. Be decisive. Get to your shot and finish it before your opponent even realizes what just happened. You can tell yourself that opportunity will come again if you miss it, and it very well may. Or you can tell yourself that other opportunities will come along, also true. But you’ll probably fall short on those ones too. What happens when you find yourself in overtime in the finals of the state tournament? Do you explode when you get the chance or do you hesitate?

Some people advocate a super aggressive style of wrestling, considering it staling if you are not attacking or being attacked at all times. But this isn’t stalling. In fact this isn’t even exciting wrestling. Do you really want to see two people flailing around at each other? One of my favorite things to say about wrestling is that the term is a contradiction in itself. To wrestle means to struggle. There is no struggle in wrestling. You either dominate or are dominated. If you are always exploding into every opportunity you get, then you will dominate. I am not saying ‘attack, attack, attack’ and I am definitely not saying ‘wait and defend’. I am simply saying something that should be rather obvious, when you get a chance, be decisive.

Of course creating opportunities is just as important. No girl is going to want to date you if you’re a fat slob with no personality who never smiles and avoids eye contact. (Sorry if I offended anyone out there.) If you keep moving, creating angles, snapping, level changing, baiting your opponent into shooting, opportunities will come. You will get better at creating opportunities like this. You are still being decisive, you are just aware that at this point there are no opportunities to shoot which is why you haven’t shot yet.

This is what makes wrestling exciting. Not high scoring matches or lots of shots, just two opponents looking for opportunities to be decisive and explode. If that opportunity never comes then so be it, three takedowns in a match is good. If those three takedowns come from only three shots then it was probably more exciting than if it took you twenty shots. Most other martial arts have the kill. The kill is either a tap out, knockout, or referee’s decision to end the bout. What makes the kill so exciting is that it is explosive. One second everyone is watching, the next they are jumping up and down screaming, “did you see that!” The tension that builds, the opportunity that arises, and the ending that takes place, make a match exciting.

So simply be decisive when you attack. Create an opportunity, see it, and attack. And when you attack, commit entirely, go all out. Don’t think, “Maybe I should shoot now”. Don’t think twice; intend to get everything all at once when you have the chance. There are too many matches when I am wrestling someone who is happy to get to my leg. I’m happy you got to my leg too, because now I have the opportunity to attack you. If you are really going to commit to that shot, then you need to commit to finishing it before you even start. EXPLODE.

Once you get good at making opportunities and then being decisive, the sky’s the limit. You could win an Olympic championship or be dating a supermodel. Your choice.